Tuesday, September 09, 2008

Blood, Sweat, and Tears.

( Another re-post)

If anyone asked me for my opinion ( yeah right! Like I'd wait to be asked!) on what it takes to be a career missionary, I would answer, "Blood, sweat, and tears!"

It takes years to learn a language and a culture well . A language is picked up long before the culture is truly understood. In most cases, the missionary can attend a language school to learn a rudimentary knowledge of the language, but there is no class room to learn the culture. When dealing with a tribal language it is much more time consuming and the culture of course is totally alien to the western mind.

To learn a tribal language, one must become child like and follow people around and try to imitate sounds with out a clue as to their meaning. Eventually, you will begin to hear the different individual sounds and can transcribe...well, that's another whole blog!

To learn a culture is an important task for the missionary and it takes time, and, as I said, "Blood, sweat and tears!"

BLOOD? Yeah! You have to learn the cultural way of dealing with death. You have to find out their way of mourning and caring for the dead. This can be very different in each culture.

Take the Sanema tribe, I remember the first time I was invited to a "funeral". I walked to the village and found a spot around the huge fire being built. I saw the women screaming and crying and slapping themselves in dispare. I saw them bring out the body wrapped in it's hammock and, I saw them place the body upon the pyre. There is no smell quite like the smell of human flesh being consumed by fire.

At this point, the witch doctor really began to whip it up. I saw the women even more excited. This dancing and crying went on all day...all night... until, at last, the fire was allowed to die.

Not over yet though! Now comes the most important part! The most vital thing one must do for their dead loved ones...the drinking of the bones.

The women scraped through all the cinders, sifting through their fingers every last little bit. Careful to catch each piece of bone left. Then these bits of bone are taken and with a primitive mortal and pestle, are ground to a fine powder. Once this is prepared, it is added to a banana drink and stirred in.

Now, all the immediate family members of the deceased come forward and begin to drink the bones. They pass the gourd around solemnly from one to another. The tiniest baby must swallow some as well. NOW, they can relax and rest in peace! Their departed love one will now be ok!

By drinking the bones, they have guaranteed that their family member will live on in them. Now they will have eternal life by being part of the living. And when the living die, they will be consumed along with them by the next generation.

Why is it important to know this? It might explain to the missionary that the father who refuses to allow you to fly the sick child out to town for medical treatment isn't being a monster. No, he loves his child too much to risk him dying out among the "criollos" and being buried! For who would drink his bones? Who could guarantee the continuation of all the ancestors contained within the child? It is an act of love in his eyes.

We may think it morbid, but...it is actually the nature of man to desire life after death and if no one is there to explain the true path God has set for us to achieve it, this is their feeble attempt to acquire eternal life for themselves.

SWEAT! You bet, sometimes you have to work with them physically to gain their respect. In some cultures, you need to understand why they DON'T seem to work at all! It is all part of how you will communicate truth to them in a way they comprehend.

I remember a group of visitors making an observation once about Ye'kwana men.

"They are so lazy! They sleep till noon and then sit around in their hammocks the rest of the day while the women do all the work!"

DUHH.. I thought! So would you if you had been out running through the jungle hunting all night and knew you had to go back out tonight since you weren't able to bring home meat for your family!

TEARS! You need to know what hurts them. You need to be with them in their times of mourning. Sit with them as an old, loved one slowly dies. Or as a newborn infant fades away.
I learned from the Indians, tears are not always visible. The worse hurts stay inside. The pain is for you alone and can not be shared, as this would cheapen it. So, if you don't see tears...that's serious pain!!!

BLOOD! Literally, sometimes. I once flew out to town to donate blood for a dying indian. No one else with his blood type could be bothered. I gave so much blood I nearly passed out. And I gave again in a few days. I wanted to give more but they would not let me. His father placed his sons hand in mine and said, "He's your son now too. He has your blood now."
His father had never wanted to listen to the gospel until that day. He is now a believer!

SWEAT! I have seen my husband work with them. He helped them build the school. He helped them build the dispensary, he helped them cut the airstrips they needed so the plane could get in to take out medical emergency patients. I have seen his shirt soaked as he worked hard in the sauna like environment of the jungle. I have seen him go days without sleep caring for the sick. This speaks volumes.

TEARS! How many caskets have we built? I remember one baby we were hand feeding , drop by drop as we could not get in an IV. We were unable to fly our plane out due to government problems and red tape. We called for the health department planes, but they were BUSY flying assembly members to Angel Falls for a vacation. When the baby died, my husband built the tiny casket. Jewel lined it with a blue gingham material and Jayde sang' Jesus Loves Me' in Ye'kwana at the funeral.

We are by no means, SUPER missionaries. These stories could be repeated over and over again by a number of missionaries. I just feel they need to be put in writing so that others can know of the many things God is doing in Missions today. Often times we act as if the God of the Old Testament is dead and no longer works among us. Or we read of great missionaries of the last century and wonder why God is not doing the same great things today. He still is! I have witnessed it.


The Localmalcontent said...

Mom, you said two things here in this repost which are true and indeed hit home to me:
1)"... one must become childlike..." A wise man, whom I honor in my life, once told me that it's far more important to be childlike, than childish-- learn the difference and be childlike.

and 2) "I learned from the Indians, tears are not always visible. The worse hurts stay inside. The pain is for you alone and can not be shared..."
I endorse and can substantiate this.

Wonderful, inciteful post for everyone who reads it.

Betty said...

Yes we have a great, loving God! I am so thankful to be one of HIS.
Very interesting post! You have had an interesting life....

Always On Watch said...

You've really laid it out here.

Most people don't appreciate what it takes to be a missionary. Thanks for bringing us this important essay!

cube said...

That was a very moving post. Thank you for giving me a perspective that I would, otherwise, never know.

redneck preacher said...

A good lesson on looking at the motive rather than the deed. I will read some of this post from the pulpit next Sunday.

Drinking the bones makes sense in a non-Christian way.


Brooke said...

What a powerful, insightful post, JM!

What can I say, other than, THANK YOU!

Anonymous said...

Personally, I think I'd rather have an easier job, like being a tail gunner on a bread truck in L.A.

That all sounds like it's in the "too hard" category for me. I also remember from my in-laws and from history that missionaries make excellent fall guys when some tin pot rabble rouser wants to get a little machete trouble going. My father in law kept gasoline buried in his backyard in Nigeria so they could flee if the moslem mob came calling.

I admire you for doing it, but I wouldn't. Not on a bet.

Jungle Mom said...

Too hard. You know you've done a lot of hard things as a Marine!!! You're too humble.

~K~ said...

Great post! I'm sure you'll still have some great stories even from the city in Paraguay! :-)

jvaughn0311 said...

Wow...that is great. I always love hearing about when ya'll were in the jungle. Your family was always my favorite!! Love the post!

crazy4danes said...

Wow...thank you for sharing these experiences in such detail. I can only imagine! Thank you again for these posts...I really love and look forward to reading about your experiences! :)

Findalis said...

That was so moving. Blood, Sweat and Tears is true even in our culture, if we bother to take the time and learn them.

ABNPOPPA said...


Thanks for the re-post. Ever since I ran across your blog I have wondered what it takes and this post certainly covered it. You are a SPECIAL person, that's for sure. I like stopping by the Jungle Hut as I always find interesting posts.


Pam said...

The photo of the guy in the hammock, makes me think of Roel!!!Is it a relative of his?

Pam said...

Rita, please let "localmalcontent" know that each time I try visiting his blog, my internet explorer stops responding. Does anyone else have this problem there? I have never experienced it with any other blog and I'm bummed bacause I really enjoy his intelligent insight! It has happened the last 3 times I've tried to spend much time there.

Brenda said...

I liked the opening line of your post, but thats why we blog, isent it? To give our opinion ;)

And I agree with your opinion on what it takes to be a missionary. I would only add to that a HUGE dose of love, because without that, we are nothing.

mylifesnhshands said...

I was searching for something what I could do to a jungle village I left. This post moved me a lot and felt really homesick and couldn't wait to do something for them. Though I have many resentments along the way, I could still feel the calling.

Enjoy your most wonderful adventure with God.
Love and peace, JOY

mylifesnhshands said...

hi jungle mom... can I ask permission to make a repost in my BLOG about this topic "blood, sweat and tears" with your name... I just wanna share it with my friends and those missionaries to be. ... thanks..
Stay blessed!!!